Am I a mother?

Sunday, 6 March 2016

I got this ring for my mum for Mothers Day

For a lot of women, Mother's Day is rough, stressful and depressing. I don't mean because they never got a card or a present from their child I mean because they don't have that child around. For me Mother's Day is awful, I always end up crying or feeling down, I torture myself with what if's and why! Here in the Uk, we celebrate Mother's Day in March, other countries celebrate it in May. Mother's Day is always on a Sunday and called Mothering Sunday.

Why do we celebrate it? As far as I know, Mothering Sunday is a Christian holiday but it can be traced back to Ancient Greek times. It is a holiday which honours mothers, some might even say it's for women who care, look after and have brought up their child. I beg to differ, I say that even if you have lost a child in pregnancy, still birth, if a surrogate gave birth to your child, If your child has passed away at any age, adopted a child that still makes you a mother. Those people who say otherwise irritate me, I'm a very compassionate person and when I see people tell women they're not a mother because they lost their baby it really grinds my gears. I can't keep my mouth shut and end up having arguments with these narrow-minded idiots, they don't usually listen so I'm not sure why I even bother sometimes. But why should I? letting others upset people who have gone through such a hard time is not something I can hold back on.

I refuse to feel down this Mother's Day and this is why? I've had a few days of crying over this Sunday and I've decided enough is enough, I don't need to be sad instead I want to celebrate the fact that I was lucky enough to be able to bare a child. I may not have been able to birth my two babies but I did carry them for that short amount of time. Their heart and my heart were beating together, I'm a mother and I always will be a mother. If you've lost a baby or been in the situation I was in where you wanted to keep your baby but couldn't, you're still a mother. I plan on snuggling up to the guy I love and watching rubbish TV, playing video games and eating yummy food, I have so much to be grateful for and that's why I can't spend my life being sad.

I want to wish you all a Happy Mother's Day and wanted to write this short post to say I'm thinking of those of you who dream of being able to conceive a child, those of you who are still grieving for your child, You're still mothers.

Elle May x